Mental Programming

What really is Mental Programming? How to remove negative programming from our mind? How to cope with programmes that keep returning to us?

Few days ago I was attending a networking event where key note speaker talked about reprogramming our mind from the negative to positive. His speach was based on his own experience and how he managed to get himself out of that damaging programming. While he was speaking, I was concentrating on his presentation and watched the audience looking for the signs of their reaction to his words. My findings were quite regular to my experience and findings supported by many years of observations. What I found on this occasion is a confirmation of the fact, that the solution to a problem must have a number of options, or resolutions to the same problem. What I mean is that there cannot be one universal solution to a problem. The reason being is that humans react to suggestions individually, and though one solution could work for us, may not work for others. Therefore, when we speak to a selection of individuals that we coach individually or in  a group, we must have several options for the resolution of a problem.

Let say, that one has some issues with deep programming  concerning his/her inability to make decisions that will change their life for better, or is lacking consistency in life, thus being stuck in poverty. In such a case, the system of turning negative thoughts in to positive thoughts may work with some individuals, but will not do anything to others. There is no uniformity in blocks that hold on to an individual. Therefore it is critical that programming must be first correctly identified before a cure can be directed.

As an example, allow me to bring in to this article a case that is proving to be extremely challenging. John (Name has been changed) is in a same sex relationship for over twenty years. His parents and sibling have never accepted his homosexuality, more over, from the very early years of his life he was subjected to very bad programming, mainly a fear of being unwanted, not worthy, etc. His adult life was in similar circumstances, plus one sided love. His unconditional love toward his life partner is so deep rooted that John was and is ready to do anything only to keep this one sided relationship going. In fact he is now overwhelmed by fear so much that he does not accept any argument what so ever in an attempt to make him to have clear thoughts and making clear decisions. Over the last six sessions we are working on his highly toxic relationship that is taking John down the suicide lane.As part of his coaching sessions we attended the above mentioned event for two reasons. First was to change John`s environment as he is not seeing or meeting other people than his clients and his jobless partner, who openly takes advantage of John`s love toward him. John knows that Bill don`t love him, and never has done so.

As I observed others on the event, I was also watching John and his reaction to the tips given by the speaker. As it turned out, John has not taken any of the presentation to his heart. When we discussed the presentation, John told me that not only did he did not listen to it, but the content did not catch his attention at all. John did not see anyway that these points would help him.

My strategy for the work with John is based on two key coaching tools, and other unconventional models of work. One of my tools that I use in my work are Angelic Cards, I am also using knowledge of several world wide experts such as Louise Hay, Collin Tipping and Jack Canfield. But the biggest tool is my inner voice, otherwise known as intuition. John`s programmes are based on fear, holding on to beliefe`s and not allowing himself to accept change. John does not allow him self to dream either, thus his emotions are also very fragile. The other difficulty is that John has no clear goals for him self, his life, his future. The fear is gripping him completely, thus paralyzing his mind all together.

It has become clear that my work with John has to be based on a number of options of reprogramming his mind and allowing him self to accept the best way forward. We have worked very hard and finally during our last session, John rediscovered himself and his ability to change his life. We have used several different clearing methods in order to find the one that triggered the change in John.

The above example is possible one that stand out in comparison to majority of coachees, but it is one that confirms one key element of coaching skills. It is the realization of the fact that in coaching, one must be prepared to reach to a full array of conventional and unconventional tools in order to be successful in working with clients.

It also means and prove that Mental Programming can really damage peoples life. Therefore, we as adults should take up on us responsibility to guide and teach our children, grandchildren and great grandchildren, unconditional love, harmony, respect, gratitude, passion, and help them to understand the impact of these on our lives. Sergiey Lazariev, a Russian doctor, who is working for the last forty years on the diagnostics of Karma, believes that our minds are programmed for up to five generations prior to our birth. If it is so, we humans, have a big responsibility on our hands with regards to the future generations.

Author: Maria Kompanowski
Dolphin Seminars Ltd
info@dolphinseminars.com